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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
Bed-time troubles
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Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D. - Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Crisis Intervention
Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
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Bed-time troubles
by K. Parks, Jan 17, 2000 12:00AM
We have a three year old girl who is incredibly intelligent. She is also very stubborn and strong willed. We are using the 1-2-3 time out discipline and somtimes it works, sometimes she drives us bonkers. She knows how to push us to our limits and then just a little more. There have been times I have had to get up and leave the room because I thought I would hurt her if I didn't get away from her. Besides the obvious guilt I feel about having these feelings I am so terribly sleep deprived that I am going nuts. She will not sleep. Last night it was 2:30 am when her dad finally smacked her bottom and told her not to leave her room. She laid in there and screamed and cried for another hour and a half. We have tried getting her down to a routine, but that doesn't help. She cries that she's thirsty or hungry or has to use the bathroom. Then she is scared, it is always something. She doesn't take a nap. I don't know what to do. Please any advise will be greatly appreciated.
Doctor's Answer
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Jan 17, 2000 12:00AM
, Jan 17, 2000 12:00AM
Dear Ms. Parks,
As I think you know, the most important ingredient to success in solving such problems is not going in to the child in the face of complaints of any sort. Don't give up on the notion of a routine, either - it is crucial to success, not only because of the structure and security it offers around bedtime, but because adherence to a routine helps establish circadian rhythms that promote sleep at the 'proper' times.
For a sensible routine and management plan, consult Solving Your Chil's Sleep Problems, by Richard Ferber, and utilize the SEARCH function in this Forum - it will connect you to other replies on this same topic.
Be sure to utilize an incentive system to supplement any time out that you might incorporate into the system you employ. Such a system motivates the youngster to comply with expectations about which they are not particularly fond.
As I think you know, the most important ingredient to success in solving such problems is not going in to the child in the face of complaints of any sort. Don't give up on the notion of a routine, either - it is crucial to success, not only because of the structure and security it offers around bedtime, but because adherence to a routine helps establish circadian rhythms that promote sleep at the 'proper' times.
For a sensible routine and management plan, consult Solving Your Chil's Sleep Problems, by Richard Ferber, and utilize the SEARCH function in this Forum - it will connect you to other replies on this same topic.
Be sure to utilize an incentive system to supplement any time out that you might incorporate into the system you employ. Such a system motivates the youngster to comply with expectations about which they are not particularly fond.
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